Wow, I can’t believe I’m turning 30 in just a little over a month! I feel like when we’re younger, we never look forward to getting older but 30 feels good yet scary.
Moving on to what I’ve learned over these last 30 years, ha! I wanted to do this post because I feel like in the last year I’ve grown up a lot, and have learned a few things as I’ve gotten older. I know that sounds cliché, but it’s true! I feel like these “lessons” have always been in the back of my mind, but this last year they’ve really been solidified for me. I think Most things aren’t a big deal. Getting stuck in traffic? Annoying. Have a ton of things on your to-do list? Stressful. Didn’t get the promotion at work? Frustrating. I get that all these things are a part of life and some are bigger deals than others BUT at the end of the day, don’t sweat the small stuff. Be happy that you lead a life that allows these things to be your stresses.
- Value your health. First things first, HEALTH! I’ve realized most things aren’t a big deal after witnessing what a lot of people go through. I have learned how grateful I am to have a healthy and able body. So many people don’t have that luxury and it’s one that a lot of us take for granted every day.
- . Happiness breeds success. Those who are happy aren’t happy because they are successful. Successful people are those that come from a place of genuine happiness and positivity. Your mind is a powerful tool, don’t underestimate it!
- Money is nice to have, and it makes life easier in some ways, but it doesn’t make you happy. This is something that my Dad said to me several years ago and it’s always stuck with me. Growing up, we never wanted for anything and even as I’ve gotten older my parents have always supported me, but I will admit that he’s right, at the end of the day things are just things, they don’t create happiness–just remember that!
- Sometimes you have to make adult decisions. Being an adult isn’t always fun–you have to think of things beyond that instant gratification. You can’t underestimate the importance or repercussions of certain things and just do what you want because you think it will work out, or it’s what everyone else is doing. Being an adult means analyzing all aspects of a situation, and not necessarily choosing what you want or what will be the most fun.
- Be kind. Kindness goes such a long way. You never know how a kind word or gesture might impact someone’s day. Don’t underestimate the power of a smile!
- Don’t spend time worrying about what others think. I’ve found that the less time I’ve spent worrying about what others think, the happier and more successful I’ve been. Anytime I get self-conscious, I just think–I’m probably never going to see these people again and if I do, so what? I’m doing what I need to do to be successful, to enjoy my life, to bring me happiness, etc. At the end of the day, you’re not going to be happy because of what someone thought of you. And if other’s opinions and perception of you is what is driving your happiness, then please re-evaluate your priorities!! At the end of the day, you have to do YOU, not what others expect of you.
- Find the positive in the less than ideal situations. Let’s face it, some situations are just shitty. But that’s life. Again, the mind is a truly powerful thing. If you dwell in how crappy any situation is, that’s all it’s ever going to be. Instead, find the silver lining. There is always something positive that comes out of a bad situation, you just have to be willing to find it.
- There’s more to life than having the “perfect body.” When I first started my fitness journey, I was so obsessed with my outward appearance. I thought that having abs and having a “perfect body” was going to make me happy. Spoiler alert: it doesn’t. Sure, your physical appearance does play a role in your self-confidence and I’m not saying it doesn’t feel great to look good! But I’ve also realized that there’s a fine line between the two. I became my happiest when I started to accept myself for who I was, not who I thought I wanted to be. It’s great to have goals that focus on your physical appearance, but how you view yourself (the mental and emotional side) is more important as that is what will have the most impact on your overall happiness.
In writing these out, I think I’ve realized a common theme. At the end of the day, you have to live your life for YOU, and no one else. Be grateful for all the good in your life (don’t sweat the small stuff), and use tough experiences to learn something, to help someone else, and to build your character.
Do these life lessons really resonate with you guys?